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I am no longer shocked by such behavior on the part of
Charedi students. It is, unfortunately, an all-too-typical consequence of the
messaging young people receive from their religious teachers. Which is to view
anything secular with complete contempt. The corollary is that they come to
treat those who live in that culture with the same disdain.
Thus, ridiculing them to their faces becomes a natural
outcome of this kind of messaging. I have heard recordings of lectures by
Charedi religious studies teachers that so thoroughly vilify the secular world
that it becomes de rigueur for students to treat anything - or anyone -
connected with it accordingly.
When I’ve brought this up to some of my Charedi friends - I
got pushback. They insist that this is not how most of their students behave.
They argue that the Yeshiva where my friend served as general studies principal
was the exception that proves the rule.
Well, it appears that this kind of behavior is not an
exception at all. It is, indeed, a function of the kind of messages students
receive from their religious teachers. In a rare moment of candor, this was
acknowledged by Rabbi Avrohom Neuberger, a popular Charedi Mechanech (educator)
in Mishpacha
Magazine. It was in response to a letter by a Charedi parent
expressing the following concern:
Our son Shloimy is in sixth grade. He’s a good kid, really. He generally behaves well, and his academic performance is on par. But even at his age, we’ve begun to notice traces of chutzpah. Interestingly, it’s not directed at us—it’s reflected sporadically in the most unexpected situations.
For example, on Chol Hamoed we went to the zoo. There was a performance in which one of the zookeepers entered the lion’s den. Before he walked in, he said, “Watch out, I may not come out alive!”
And Shloimy shouted out, “If you don’t, can I have your watch?”
My wife and I were horrified.
The parent goes on to contrast his son’s behavior with that
of students at a Modern Orthodox school, whose conduct in situations like this
was respectful. He wondered whether he should transfer his son to that school.
Rabbi Neuberger advises strongly against doing so. For good
reason, in my view. But that is beyond the scope of this post. What is
definitely within its scope is his explanation for this phenomenon, and,
amazingly, his concession that it is indeed a function of the kind of education
Charedi students receive. His explanation closely mirrors my own…
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