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| Not modest enough for publication in Mishpacha? |
The bastardization of the concept of female modesty
has spread over the last few years into other areas. Like a children’s book that
depicts a ‘typical’ Shabbos table with the father making Kiddush at an all male
table - without any women. Not even the wife/mother or any daughters. Only the
father and his sons. I am not talking about customs found only
in Meah Shearim. I am talking about mainstream Orthodoxy albeit the most right
wing version of it.
This may not seem like such a big deal to some of us. But to
me it is a terrifying trend. Women are being erased from public view as though
the slightest glimpse of an image of most modestly dressed woman might raise improper thoughts
in men. Women that are subjected to this
kind of ‘standard of Tznius’ become invisible and at the very least made to
feel that they are 2nd class citizens. Or worse living breathing temptresses that must be hidden from public view.
I don’t know how a young girl raised in this kind of environment can possibly develop a healthy self image. But it isn’t only young girls that are hurt this
way. Boys are equally hurt. They too cannot possibly develop a healthy
image of women other than as sex objects. What other image would they
see if they are being led to believe that any image of a women is to be avoided
based on modesty?!
While it is true that some Orthodox cultures live by those
standards (such as those that live in the isolated enclaves of Kiryas Joel, New Square or the above mentioned Meah Shearim) that
is not how the mainstream lives.
Those of us that live in the real world cannot
possibly develop a positive image of a Jewish woman in a world where women are never seen publicly. It harms the very fabric
of life among Orthodox Jews that come to believe that this is just a more stringent form of modesty observance.
None of this is new. But despite all the discussion about it, there has been little change in the
way women are being depicted in the more right wing elements of the Charedi world. It
seems to only be getting worse.
At this point I want to acknowledge that I have had a
conversation about this with one of Mishpacha Magazine’s editors. He told me
that they do struggle with this issue. Shortly after that conversation,
Mishpacha came out with an online version of their magazine that does have
images of women. But their main product is still a ‘female free zone’. They
will not even publish the face of a female columnist - as they do with their male
columnists.
It is should be plainly obvious that even the most right wing leaders of mainstream Charedi Judaism have no
problem at all with publishing pictures of women. Rav Chaim Kanievsky who is
one of the most respected Charedi leaders in the world allowed a book about his late wife (...Rav Elyashiv's daughter) to be published that is filled with pictures
of her.
Lest anyone say that he is somehow capitulating to the
times, all we have to do is look at the many class pictures of Beis Yaakov
graduates from the 1930s to see how widely accepted pictures of women were.
How Charedi is Beis Yaakov? Pretty Charedi! After its founding it eventually had the endorsement of the most venerated sage of the 20th
century, the Chofetz Chaim. Whose magnum opus, the Mishna Berurah is the most
widely respected book on Jewish law in our day. If pictures were modest enough for
him, who are we to say that they are not modest enough for us?!
But the editors
at the mainstream charedi magazines act as though they are ‘Frummer’ (more religious) than the Chofetz Chaim and R
Chaim Kanievsky. And with that attitude they end up demeaning the status of women in our day – even
if unintentionally.
Which brings me to Dr. Leslie Ginsparg Klein. Dr. Klien is an
expert on the life of Sara Sheneirer, founder of the Beis Yaakov School system
for girls’ education. She has recently
published a children’s book on Mrs. Sheneirer’s life and is working on a book about the history of Beis Yaakov in America. She is also the academic dean of a seminary for women. I proud to
say that I have known her for many years. She also happens to be my son in law’s sister.
Aside from her
expertise in academics, she is quite talented.
One of her talents is writing songs with a message and then performing them. She has
recently done so magnificently with the issue at hand. I am pleased to present it here. It is done in the style of ‘Rap’ and modeled on the Broadway hit, Hamilton. You might even say that she is the
female Lin-Manuel Miranda.
Since rap is basically just a performer talking - accompanied by a musical background - there are no
problems with Kol Isha (the Halachic prohibition on a man listening to a female
voice). Even for those stringent about a recorded female voice. I
highly recommend watching this amazing performance by Dr. Klein, an Orthodox Jewish
woman; dressed modestly; hair covered. If one picture is worth a
thousand words, a video might be worth a thousand pictures. Watch,
listen, and learn.
Update
For an important perspective on this issue please read the very thoughtful article in the Times of Israel by Shoshana Keats Jaskoll
For an important perspective on this issue please read the very thoughtful article in the Times of Israel by Shoshana Keats Jaskoll
