A Very Short Reply to the Many Substantive Comments on my Article: An Initial Analysis of Rabbi Moshe Sternbuch’s Teshuva on the Beth Din of America’s Prenuptial Agreement
by Rabbi Michael J. Broyde
Before I reply,
I want to encourage all to listen closely to shiur by Rabbi Mordechai Willig שליט"א on this matter. (One of the commentators also mentioned
it.) I believe that everything I have
written is consistent with his remarks and Rabbi Willig says many other interesting
things as well that I did not touch on.
Rabbi Willig remains a fountain of wisdom in this (and many other) areas. Let me add that Rabbi Willig states directly
in his shiur – based on his own and direct conversations with Rabbi Sternbuch שליט"א
himself – that Rabbi Sternbuch’s view is NOT (as
one commentator claims) “that any payment that is triggered by the failure to
give a divorce is in essence a penalty” but rather that the payment that is
triggered by the PNA has to related to the proper amount of support due in
financial reality, given the economics of the community and person. That is both the only reasonable way to read
the teshuva and is now attested to by Rabbi Willig as something Rabbi Sternbuch
said directly to him as his own view as well.
The remaining substance
of the many comments fits into four categories.
First, some argue with
my read of the economic fact in the Modern Orthodox community which uses the
BDA prenup. I reproduce below what is referred to
an Apendix A in the paper, which was not posted in the prior version and was
written by Professor Leon Metzger. I
think it makes it clear that for large segments of our community, around $150 a
day is reasonable support measure for housing, utilities, health care, car
costs and insurance, personal care, housecleaning and clothing.
I recognize, of course, that both around the
United States and outside the United States, these numbers will change, but as
the chart below shows, $150 a day is a good starting number and halachicly reasonable. As I note in my comments, I have no particular problem with changing this formulation to “construct a new document in which the
spousal support provision was not set at a fixed number, but was instead
indexed to some official government averages for income and cost of living in
the time and place in which the couple was domiciled prior to the dissolution
of their marriage.”
That number might be
higher than $150 a day of course in some locations. My sense is that secular courts have a
preference for precise and non-liquidated damages, which would make this
formulation more complex. On this chart
with its 38 locations calculated, only South Bend Indiana is below $100 a day
and the overwhelming majority of locations are above, or at, or very close to
$150 a day (including, Silver Spring, all of the Manhattan locations, Queens,
all of the Brooklyn locations, Monsey the Bronx, West Hempstead, the Five Towns,
Teaneck, New Rochelle and Scarsdale).
It is important to add that the halachic rule (See Tur EH 70
and Shulchan Aruch EH 82:3, 89:1 and many other places) is that the wife is
entitled to support at either the level of the husband’s standard of living or
the wife’s pre-marriage standard, whichever is higher. (Thus, when a man from South Bend, Indiana
marries a woman raised and living in the Upper East Side of Manhattan, and they live in South Bend, the rate
of $150 a day is completely proper.)
Second, many ask what to do in cases where for one reason or
another the woman is not entitled to support as a matter of halacha (such as
she is a moredes) and yet the BDA Prenup mandates support. There are two primary answers, each important and independent
of the other (and a third that is less relavant).
One approach is of the Tzitz
Eliezer I quote here from my book (page 51) “Marriage, Divorce and the Abandoned Wife” at page 51:
Indeed, this policy is noticeably different from the policy of the
rabbinical courts in cases where the woman is a moredet (a
"rebellious wife") and thus, according to most authorities is
obligated to be divorced. In the case of a woman who is a moredet (such
as, in the case Rabbi Waldenberg addresses below, an adulteress), a husband has
no right to both decline to support her and decline to divorce
her. As Rabbi Eliezer Waldenberg notes:
[When a woman has improperly abandoned the marital abode (is a moredet)],
she forfeits her (marital) . . . rights and other financial claims against the
husband. However, on the other side, the husband must [chayav] divorce
her and may not keep her connected to him.[1]
Waldenberg states that the ruling (psak) of the Israeli rabbinical
courts, with which he agrees, is to require support payments to be paid even to
a spouse who improperly abandons the home and is an adulteress, when a
reasonable time has elapsed and the husband has not ended the marriage by
writing a get. Indeed, in the case of a moredet, no less an
authority than the Pitchai Teshuva (Even Haezer 154:4&7) notes that the
accepted practice is to make the husband support his wife (until he gives her a
get) specifically to encourage him to give a get and not to
compel a woman to remain in a "dead marriage," even if the marriage
"died" because of her misconduct. Similar sentiments can be found in
the name of many poskim, including such luminaries as the author of the
Noda Beyehuda, Rabbi Akiva Eiger, as well as the authors of Chatam Sofer and
Beit Meir; this view is the normative halachic posture, even if it is contrary
to the assertion of Tosafot.[2] Payments are not designed to support the
women, they are designed to encourage the giving of a get.
Second, since the BDA Prenup is an arbitration agreement, the bet din panel
hearing this matter could decide not to order the payments, in a situation in
which the totality of the circumstances would cause the dayanim hearing
the case to favor such a resolution. It
is exactly the job of the rabbinical court that is hearing any given case to
determine that such payments are proper and to order them in a proper time
frame. The BDA Prenup gives the panel
hearing the case such discression and authority, and when such payments are ordered,
it is because the panel determined that they are appropriate.
(Also the BDA prenup explicitly notes that if the parties agree to submit
the whole matter to the BDA, marital fault may be a factor, making this even
clearer.)
Third, is the question of what to do when the husband fits either into
a socioeconomic patern that makes the payment of $150 not a proper reflection
of the amount he owes her given their standard of living, or the payment is a
proper reflection of the amount he owes her, but beyound his actual ability to
pay now. [There are two ways this could
happen. The first is that $150 a day
reflects her standard of living prior to marriage )see above) – and he can not afford
her premarriage standard of $150 a day.
The second is that he can no longer afford the standard of living they
jointly had while married due to changes in his earning ability post-seperation.]
In a case in which the proper reflection of their standard of living is
less than $150 a day (such as in South Bend, Indiana, according to the chart),
the answer is clear and is directly stated by Rabbi Willig in the above
shiur. THE BETH DIN OF AMERICA WILL
REDUCE THE PAYMENT LEVELS TO REFLECT THE ACTUAL STANDARD OF LIVING OF THE
COUPLE.
This is not something new or
unusual or a concession. This is a
support agreement and not a liquidated damages agreement and support must
reflect the actual reasonable support.
The second case is much more interesting: A more than reasonable claim
could be made that if the correct amount of the payment is actually $150
per day, but the husband geneuinely can not make such a payment due to
his post seperation poverty, there is no illicit coercion at all, and what the
husband ought to do in a case when the payment is proper, is give the get. The decision to avoid a marital debt
rightfully owned by giving a get is not a get meuseh at all.
Fourth and finally, it is important to emphasize that the BDA Prenup
is not a communal decree, but is a contract signed by the parties withot
coercion and of the free will of both sides.
Many – maybe most – Orthodox Jews do not use this or any other
prenuptial agrement. The community of
those who will not do a wedding without any prenup being used is far from the
majority of the Orthodox rabbinate and no agreement beyond a ketubah is
mandated as a matter of halacha. This
agreement, with all of its various clasuses is selected by the husband and wife
and binding as a matter of halach because they agreed to it and wanted it.
The
assertion that this or that specific provision of the BDA Prenup is a matter of
dispute in Jewish financial law is perhaps sometimes correct. But the BDA Prenup states explicitly that “As a matter of
Jewish law, the parties agree that to effectuate this Agreement they accept now
(through the Jewish law mechanism of kim li) whatever minority views
determined by the Beth Din of America are needed to effectuate the obligations,
procedures and jurisdictional mandates contained in this Agreement” and that is
a very powerful tool to address matters of Jewish financial law. Having realized that this agreement is a
valid contract – and not some imposed agreement – allows one to accept clauses
as proper because the parties accepted this as governing their agreement.
Of course, those
of you who want to follow up with me, should know
that my email address is not hard to find and I welcome your comments to me
directly.
[1]Tzitz Eliezer 18:58. This psak can also be found in Peskai Din
Rabaniyin 1:238 and 9:171 as the psak of the rabbinical courts of Israel
and is defended by Rabbi Herzog and others in the appendix to volume 2 of Otzar
ha-Poskim. Particularly the analysis found in 9:171 supports the contention
that the moredet issue is not significant, since a get should be
given even to a moredet.
[2]Tosafot, Zevachim 2b s.v. stam. The approach of Tosafot is
rejected, or limited to a case where the woman does not want to be divorced, by
a breadth of authorities, including Noda Beyehuda, Tenyana Even Haezer 12,
Rabbi Akiva Eiger, Derush Vechedish, teshuvah at the end of the ketavim
section, Chatam Sofer, Nedarim 89a s.v. berishona (cited in the
preface), Beit Meir Even Haezer 117, Pitchai Teshuva 154 (4&7) and it can
be implied from Aruch Hashulchan Even Haezer 178:25-26. See the short article
by Rabbi Yakov Moshe Tolidano in the appendix to Otzar ha-Poskim (2:16); he
avers that the approach that requires a husband to support his wife who is a moredet,
and thus not technically entitled to support, in order to encourage the writing
of a get by the husband, is the normative halachah without a doubt.
