Monday, August 04, 2025

Can YCT Still Be Called Orthodox?

YCT's first openly gay ordainee, Tadhg Cleary (Forward)
This may come as a shock to some people, but I have no problem with ordaining gay men. A shock -because of my belief in the Torah and its strict prohibition against homosexual sex. That belief has not changed. Neither has my belief that people can’t help who they are attracted to.

The fact is, we have no way of knowing how many gay men have been ordained over the course of Jewish history. Even by rabbis of great stature. That’s because they never revealed their same sex attractions and certainly did not act on them.

But when someone comes out publicly as gay, that is a horse of an entirely different color. Coming out usually means they will be acting on those attractions. The Torah is very clear on this point. It unambiguously forbids homosexual sex. And treats it as a capital crime.

The latest nail in the coffin for Yeshivat Chovevei Torah’s (YCT) claim to be an Orthodox institution is its decision to ordain Tadhg Cleary - an openly gay man. He was accepted to the school with the understanding that he could publicly identify as gay. After receiving semicha, he announced that he would be ‘marrying’ his partner. There is little doubt about the serious Torah violation that such a marriage entails. One of the essential elements of marriage is the expression of love through sexual intimacy.

YCT head, Rabbi Dov Linzer (Forward)
YCT's head, Rabbi Dov Linzer, claims that Rabbi Cleary is ‘an enormous talmid chacham’, a Torah scholar who is ‘God-fearing and scrupulous in his observance’. But that rings hollow. One must assume there will be a sexual relationship between the ‘married’ couple. 

In the highly unlikely event that Rabbi Linzer has been assured there will be no sexual intimacy in the marriage, I have to question how any couple - where there is physical attraction - can realistically uphold such an assurance. The human sex drive is exceedingly strong. It will not be denied.

And even if they do plan to abstain, if they don’t make that commitment publicly and explicitly, the message sent to other gay couples is that there is nothing wrong with homosexual sex - completely ignoring the Torah’s unambiguous prohibition.

The  Forward reports this is the first time an Orthodox seminary has ordained an openly gay man. In my view, it will be the last. This ordination seals YCT’s fate. I do not believe there is any way on earth it can be called Orthodox anymore.

It doesn’t matter how ‘Frum’ Cleary is in all the other Miitzvos. Even if he is makpid on Chalav Yisrael and Yoshon. That doesn't change anything. The deliberate violation of even a single Mitzvah removes someone from the realm of being a fully observant Jew. Especially when that violation concerns a capital offense. That he insisted on being openly gay and proudly proclaims he will marry his partner takes him out of the category of observance altogether. In no way can he serve as a role model of Orthodox Judaism for any congregation he might lead.

Truth be told, I feel sorry for Cleary. Raised in a non-observant home, his sincere search for truth and meaning led him to observance and to study Torah for nine years at Yeshivat Har Etzion - one of the most prestigious Modern Orthodox/Religious Zionist yeshivas in Israel. When he came out in 2023, he was asked to leave.

Interestingly, Cleary says he ‘did not give up on the idea of marrying a woman until 2020’.
Whether a gay man should marry a woman is generally frowned upon by mental health professionals. For obvious reasons.

But I’m not so sure this is always wrong. Sometimes, we must fight our natural urges to live a life in accordance with the Torah. The rewards of marrying a woman, raising a family, and building a Torah home are surely worth the sacrifice of not satisfying an urge that – if acted upon - is considered a major sin.

That has certainly been the case in the not too distant past, when homosexual sex was seen as a mental disorder. Men who were attracted to other men tended to stay in the closet. Some never married, others married and found fulfillment in other, more meaningful ways. Those who succumbed to temptation, did so on the ‘down low’. Those who were caught were often humiliated and ostracized from society. Often causing depression and even suicide. That is still true to a certain extent in some cases.

Humiliating other human beings is a gross violation of the Torah as well. But that is a sperate issue that should be dealt with. WITHOUT legitimizing the behavior that brought about that humiliation. Furthermore, I would be willing to bet that there were more than a few gay men that got married, continued to struggle with their same sex attractions, but otherwise led quite fulfilling lives as husbands and fathers.

I know that in today’s world, this kind of thinking is considered sacrilegious. Dangerous even! It surely goes against modern conceptions of morality. But the Torah does not change to reflect the moral sensibilities of the time. If the Torah declares something immoral, it remains immoral. No matter how much societal values have shifted.

I hate talking about this subject so often. But when yet another public event raises new questions, I feel obligated to speak out. Despite the backlash I will surely get from the left.

If Tadhg Cleary happens to read this post, he will surely hate me. I don’t blame him. And that makes me sad. I certainly do not hate him. On the contrary, I actually admire him for making the difficult decision to become observant and for spending so many years studying Torah. He is probably a wonderful human being, motivated by a sincere desire to serve the Jewish people as a rabbi.

But a rabbi cannot openly declare that he will be living with another man as a married couple - with al that this entails. One cannot promote Torah observance while visibly violating one of the most serious prohibitions in it. Nor can one explain the prohibition away with convoluted interpretations of a clearly stated law.

As for YCT, they need to stop claiming to be a flagship institution of Modern Orthodoxy. Rabbi Linzer may have meant well by ordaining an openly gay man, seeing it as an act of inclusion. But granting Semicha in this case goes far beyond inclusion. By doing so, YCT has, in my view, abdicated any claim to representing Orthodox Judaism.