Wednesday, July 23, 2025

Forbidden Waters are Sweet

I hate bans. Even those that might have legitimate justifications for being made. Mishlei (9:17) tells us, Mayim genuvim yimtaku - stolen waters are sweet. Once something is banned, it often becomes a prize to be sought on the sly. Curiosity is stoked: What exactly is being banned? Why? What harm could it really do? How bad could it be? If something is banned, it must be enticing - something I don’t want to miss out on.

In other words, bans can often have the opposite effect of what’s intended. Rather than keeping youth away from harmful influences, they may draw them in closer. Especially during adolescence, one of the most naturally rebellious periods of life.

That is not to say everyone will succumb to temptation after a ban. Most will likely adhere. But there will surely be a significant number of teenagers who will not.

The latest such ban comes from the Chasidus of Karlin-Stolin, as reported in Arutz Sheva:

The Karlin-Stolin Hasidic community has issued new guidelines significantly limiting the use of artificial intelligence, especially among its younger members.

Released by the Hasidic Committee for Media Guidance and Advice, the rules include a total ban on teens independently interacting with AI systems. The committee described AI as technology “based on databases of billions of documents and various contents found across global computer networks,” and warned that its rapid evolution demands extreme caution.

These bans, as noted, are often instituted for entirely good reasons. In the case of AI (Artificial Intelligence), the goal is to protect users - especially vulnerable youth - from the dangers inherent in a powerful and largely unregulated new technology. And there are indeed real dangers.

AI-generated images and content have already proven capable of inflicting severe damage. Fake images that are so realistic they are indistinguishable from real ones can destroy reputations, relationships, and lives — in an instant. One AI website that has been in the news recently - can strip the clothes off a perfectly modest image of a teenage girl and offers to do so for any submitted photo. Even though nothing actually happened, the image falsely says it did. The psychological and social impact of such misuse can be devastating. And teenagers, in particular, are highly vulnerable to such content.

So yes, a ban is understandable. But let’s be honest. It doesn’t work. It’s not that hard for a teenager to find someone with a smartphone and convince them to try it.

So what’s the alternative? How can we responsibly allow youth access to AI when it can be so easily and terribly abused?

The truth is: we cannot entirely prevent the misuse of these technologies — not through bans, and not even through good parenting.

But there is no substitute for good parenting.

The inefficacy of bans goes back to the early days of the internet, when the Charedi -  especially Chassidic - world attempted to ban it outright.

In May 2012, the concern over internet use led to a massive gathering of the Charedi world at Citi Field in Queens. Prominent rabbinic leaders warned about the internet's spiritual dangers. At the time, they called for a total ban — later modified to allow internet use for business purposes or if heavily filtered. Still, the clear preference remained: avoid it entirely.

But today, it's nearly impossible to function in society without using the internet in some form.

When Apple released the iPhone - followed by a wave of copycat ‘smartphones’ (a term now universally used)  it reshaped the world. Those devices changed our lives in ways few could have anticipated, even the developers themselves.

By now, we all know that smartphones can be among the most useful tools available to humankind — and also among the most destructive. These dangers are not only acknowledged in Charedi circles, but across all of civilized society. Improper smartphone use can — and does — ruin lives. And yet, no ban has ever succeeded in keeping them away. Nearly everyone has one now. Banning them – as the Charedi leadership had tried to do - only made their use more clandestine.

Artificial intelligence is the next technological leap. It hasn't yet fulfilled its vast potential — for good or for harm. But the damage already done shows just how dangerous it can be.

And like every ban before it, this too will likely be honored in the breach by precisely the people it’s meant to protect.

The problems created by rapid technological advances are real. But they cannot be solved by simply declaring, ‘It is forbidden’. There’s no magic bullet. But the solution, if it exists, begins in the home. With good parenting, setting boundaries, and leading by example.

Some ideas:

  • No child under 12 should be allowed to own or use AI-related tech unsupervised.
  • Children up to age 18 should only be allowed access under strict parental monitoring.

Obvioulsy that’s not a complete solution, but it’s at least a start. Ideally, the Orthodox Jewish world should convene a universal, cross-Hashkafic summit where a meeting of minds across the entire spectrum of Orthodox Judaism can take place. If sincere and well-meaning organizations come together without trying to push their own narrow agendas, real progress can be made.

If schools across all Hashkafic lines agreed to adopt and implement shared guidelines, we might begin to see change. Sadly, there are only 2 chances of the left, right, and center of Orthodoxy agreeing on anything: Slim and none. Even on something that harms us all equally.