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| Shachris at Arie Crown Hebrew Day School |
Jordana Horn, the former New York bureau chief of The Jerusalem Post, has written an article in the Forward defending
the premise that one can be raised as a proud and productive Jew without ever attending a day
school. She proceeds to document her own attendance in public school and that
of her siblings to prove her point. Which is that one can be fully Jewish, relatively
knowledgeable about one’s Judaism and fully proud and participatory in it at
many levels. She then presents a list of suggestions instructing us how to go
about doing so successfully. It is a list of very practical suggestions with
which I agree. But it falls woefully short in my view.
I have to ask, is her definition of being a Jew the correct
definition? Is Judaism only about marrying Jewish? Or reading Hebrew? Or the ability
to read the Torah? As laudable as these things are, they fall far short of what
being a Jew is all about. The entire concept of following Halacha is missing
from her definition. And in my view being an observant ‘Halakhic Man’ is the essence of being a Jew.
Everything we do as a Jew should be viewed through the lens of Halacha. That is
what God desires of the Jewish people… and no less. That many of us fail in
that regard one way or another does not make it any less so.
That said, I must concede that it is possible to raise a
child to be Halachic Jew without sending him to day school. I am sure that
there are some cases where that has happened even in our day. But I would not recommend
it.
I understand the incentive for a parent too try and do
something like that. The tuition crisis in America is real. There is no two
ways about it. Any parent with children in a day school will verify that. But
there is a reason that is so
Day schools today are not what they used to be in their
early days (…fifties and early sixties) – a school with teachers so underpaid
that they could barely survive even with second jobs. No enrichment programs.
No school psychologists. No real curriculum development. No special classes for
learning disabled children. Nothing except
the bare bones of studying Limudei Kodesh (religious studies) in the morning and Limudei Chol (secular studies) in
the afternoons.
Funding Jewish education in those days was a joke. Tuitions
were tiny back then because day schools were struggling just to get parents to
send them their children – even for free. Generous philanthropists didn’t exist
yet. As a result, religious teachers sometimes went unpaid their meager
earnings for months at a time. I don’t know how they existed.
And yet, somehow the day schools of that time managed.
Today, things are much better. Teachers make livable wages.
Fundraising is much better. Teachers are paid mostly on time. Schools are therefore
much better now. It is easier to recruit good teachers for a school if you pay
them a livable wage. And as a school grows – so do programs they offer their
students. All this costs money. Hence the increased tuitions today.
Meanwhile parents who themselves have gone through the day
school system recognize their value and no longer need convincing to send their
children. All of this translates to the
impossibly high tuitions that are demanded of parents today. Even though
scholarships are given to those who need them - every spare dime a parent may
have is asked for by the schools that have no choice but to demand it in order
to fund their exploding budgets. Budgets that are for the most part necessary
in order to serve the demands made by parents who expect the best and most
enriching education possible. (Although trimming what is in some cases bloated school budgets is a subject for legitimate discussion - it is beyond the scope of this post.)
For parents with four, five, six or more children who feel
they are squeezed to the max for every dime, the thought of sending a child to
a free public school while teaching them about Judaism at home must be very
tempting. But it is a losing proposition in most cases. It would take a most
unusual family and an unusual child to overcome the influences in a public
school.
Peer groups matter. Environment matters. A child’s social
life is as important to his development as is the material they learn in the
classroom. And the Limudei Kodesh material covered in a classroom can rarely be
matched at home by even the most diligent and dedicated parent. Furthermore most children will resent the extra time they need to
study religious subjects at home when all their classmates and friends from
public school are out having a good time.
It is these kinds of influences that brought about the day
school movement we have in America today. Historically, prior to the advent of
the day school movement the majority of children from religious homes that
attended public schools did not stay observant. That some did stay religious to
one extent or another was relatively rare. The influence of the melting pot
society… and the drive to get ahead financially – coupled with the view that
the way of their parents was an archaic vestige of their European ghetto past – irrelevant to America - led many good
people to abandon observance to any significant degree.
Although the melting pot… kind of melted itself - giving way
to a more culturally diverse society in America, - making observant Judaism
more socially acceptable - that isn’t enough to prevent a child from abandoning
his parents ancient religious practices in the modern world. It is his parents
against the world. With no significant peer relationship to influence a child
to see it any other way. Not to mention the woefully inadequate level of Torah
study in the home after school.
I therefore strongly reject the notion that one can send a
child to public school with the expectation of being an observant Jew. Which -
as I said - is the essence of being Jewish. If you want your child to follow in
your footsteps as a religious Jew, you have to bite the financial bullet and
send your child to a day school. The tuition crisis – although very real is a separate
issue.
Of course there are no guarantees. Day schools do not
provide immunity from going OTD. The OTD rate is increasing despite the day school
experience. In some cases it is because of the day school experience. But as important
as this issue is, it is also really a separate one.
When one looks at the total picture, I don’t think there is
any question that the vast majority of day school students will become
observant adults. On the other hand without a day school education the chances
of your child remaining observant are – to say the least - substantially
reduced.
