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| They are feeding their families. Does that make them feminists? (Forward) |
Rabbi Shafran tries to make the case that the Charedim are the
most feminist of people. His reason? It
is because the women in this community do what feminists all over the world
think women should be doing: working. And
in many cases Charedi women work at decent jobs requiring great skill and education. They are in fact being trained to do so by innovative
programs that they take advantage of.
Well, it is true that Charedi women work. But does that make
them feminists? Hardly. They work not because they want to lead more fulfilling
lives in equal measure to men. They work to support their families, because their husbands don’t. Their
husbands learn in Kollel.
Somebody has to support the family. So the women do it.
Is that feminism? Not only isn't it feminism it is hardly even Jewish for
women be the breadwinners. The Torah is very clear about who that is supposed
to be. It is men. ‘B’Zeyas Apecha Tochel Lechem’ – ‘by the sweat of your
brow you shall eat bread’ (Bereishis 3:19). That ‘curse’ is explicitly directed towards men. Not
women. And yet today, it is by the sweat of the woman’s brow that bread is
eaten in the Charedi world. So please let us not call this feminism. It is instead an Olam HaHafuch. A world turned upside
down.
Had these women decided to work to supplement a working
husband who was not making enough to meet the needs of his large family, it
would be understandable. But to place the entire burden on women for her
family’s sustenance is unfair - and I dare say even anti family. If men are in
Kollel and women work all day, there is not much time for family. Nor do most women make nearly enough to
support their usually large families. Hence the crushing poverty affecting so
many families in the Charedi world.
Besides, I’m not even sure why Rabbi Shafran would even want
to characterize any part of the Charedi world as feminist. Feminism is anathema to the Charedi world.
Rabbi Shafran touches upon a subject that is a constant
source of frustration for me. Here are
his words:
The Haredi dedication to Torah-study (and concomitant shunning of military service) is disparaged, or at least viewed with condescension. The size of Haredi families is regarded with looking-down-the-nose disapproval. And, of course, the seemingly self-imposed poverty of so many Haredi families along with the low employment rate of Haredi men are beheld with deep displeasure, if not disdain.
No one should look down their nose at Charedim for any
reason. That is certainly not how I look at them. But there is definitely a
legitimate problem that remains unaddressed. It isn’t dedication to Torah study that is disparaged. It is the idea
that every Charedi man has to do it to the exclusion of all else. And the fact that when one finally leaves that
world of full time Torah study to go to work they are ill prepared to do so.
The fact that there are programs that train Charedim after
they leave Kollel is a good thing. But it is not nearly enough to cure the
poverty that is built into the system. There is not the slightest doubt in my
mind that the lack of any preparation for the workplace during the high school
years (and beyond) contributes mightily to the lack of decent jobs available to
Charedim that find themselves in the job market. And thus their increasing poverty
rate.
And shunning military service is not something for anyone to
applaud. As I have said many times, the elite of the Torah world should be
exempt and supported. It is vital to the Torah world to have high caliber
people studying Torah. But the rest (majority) should be required - same as any
other citizen - to serve their country at some point.
So I part company this time with Rabbi Shafran. First for
characterizing Charedi woman as feminists. They are not. And more importantly
for what I believe to be an erroneous understanding of what upsets even those of us who value Torah study - same as they do. We are not upset at their values. We are upset
about the intransigence of a Charedi
leadership in perpetuating a system designed to save Torah study form extinction - that has long ago fulfilled its mission.
Torah study has been saved. It is no longer in danger of extinction.
And yet the
leadership acts as though the slightest change in it will cause its
destruction. And that in my humble opinion makes them their own worst enemy.
One far greater than the one they think they are fighting. Because it isn’t
only their material welfare that suffers. Poverty can destroy their spiritual
welfare too.
